It is true. When I was engaged I had to really focus on what my fiancee was saying in order to hear and understand what she was saying. The article suggests that the reason for it is that men use the auditory part of the brain that processes music. Now that is very interesting to me; as a musician, one would think that would make it easier for me. But it doesn't.
When I play the trumpet, it requires intense focus and concentration. I'm constantly analyzing what I am hearing and making appropriate adjustments. I suspect that the active nature of the listening is what enhances the focus and concentration. You don't get that opportunity when you are listening to another person.
That's my excuse. And I'm sticking to it.
Mark's Remarks
I don't think it had anything to do with the dynamic of hearing...I think you were concentrating on another sense...(as good looking girl walks by the workstation)...What was I saying again? Never mind.
Of course, the guys who DO listen (myself and Doug included) typically get referred to as the "like my brother or best friend" types. So, I don't think men don't hear women. We are confused. Do we in turn act like we aren't paying attention, pay lip service, call her stupid, or actually listen and reflect back? In today's mixed up world of relationships, who knows?
